I was about to get into my truck to drive to my new house (my first). My mother had a made a lot of strides in admitting that she probably had ptsd too, from my father, and she even scheduled a therapy session. Right as I was about to leave she panicked and reverted to her old behavior and talking points. I don’t feel like going into detail, but it was clear to me that despite my best efforts, which themselves were extremely painful, these people were simply not capable of change.
Ya, i struggled with that too initially and I came to the result its just to overstimulating being around her, I have to worry about the tiniest thing exploding and not willing to live my life dancing around my own feelings and needs for someone who in truth really just give a shit about them. She cant or wont or something else but I just dont care.
We’re all adults who get to make choices about how we allocate our time and resources and who with and there’s just no value in trying anymore. It sounds sad but its actually really positive, like Louis CK talking about not to say im so sory when your friends divorce. Its a good thing, no happy couple has ever gotten divorced
Its only ever a sad ending for whoever was benefitting from the financial or other associated gravy trains that got free shit for tormenting you. Parties over and its sad for them but I will never be sad for them, i am indifferent to how they are or what comes of them. People mostly only change when they have to and the rest of their story is up to them to write and live alone
I was about to get into my truck to drive to my new house (my first). My mother had a made a lot of strides in admitting that she probably had ptsd too, from my father, and she even scheduled a therapy session. Right as I was about to leave she panicked and reverted to her old behavior and talking points. I don’t feel like going into detail, but it was clear to me that despite my best efforts, which themselves were extremely painful, these people were simply not capable of change.
Ya, i struggled with that too initially and I came to the result its just to overstimulating being around her, I have to worry about the tiniest thing exploding and not willing to live my life dancing around my own feelings and needs for someone who in truth really just give a shit about them. She cant or wont or something else but I just dont care.
We’re all adults who get to make choices about how we allocate our time and resources and who with and there’s just no value in trying anymore. It sounds sad but its actually really positive, like Louis CK talking about not to say im so sory when your friends divorce. Its a good thing, no happy couple has ever gotten divorced
Its only ever a sad ending for whoever was benefitting from the financial or other associated gravy trains that got free shit for tormenting you. Parties over and its sad for them but I will never be sad for them, i am indifferent to how they are or what comes of them. People mostly only change when they have to and the rest of their story is up to them to write and live alone