• GhostFace@lemmy.today
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    1 day ago

    The first few are fine?

    The last one is where I would draw the line, even if it involved vetting people off of fetlife.

    There’s a difference between hard doms and soft doms. It sounds more like you’re the second and I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Some of us genuinely enjoy being hit and choked and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. It means we trust you enough to even ask at all. If it’s not something you enjoy or feel comfortable doing that is also fine.

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      1 day ago

      Choking someone until they pass out is absolutely not fine. That’s extremely dangerous and will cause permanent harm. You shouldn’t should never be anywhere NEAR the point of losing consciousness.

      I know choking can feel good, but there’s no safe way to do it aside from just putting your hand there and applying zero pressure. You’re literally depriving your brain of oxygen.

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        8 hours ago

        I knew a guy in high school that choked himself out for fun, like he would devise techniques to make sure when he passed out the choking force would be removed, and he was trying to convince me to try it… No thanks, I’ll just stick to drugs.

      • GhostFace@lemmy.today
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        18 hours ago

        I don’t really have much to say besides calling you a coward. Obviously there’s risk involved. That’s part of the point.

        • hirihit640@sh.itjust.works
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          15 hours ago

          The problem is that people underestimate the risk. For many it’s not worth the risk, they just don’t realize it