I’ve always been ok
Eye contact has always felt weirdly intimate, like I’m spiritually making out with my conversation partner; so I try to keep it to occasional light kisses
Look at the point between their eyes. Took a friend of me 2 years to even notice though we saw each other every 2-3 days. And when he noticed it, he wasn’t even sure.
The actual proper eye contact.
That bothers me so much not even because something touching my eye. As a kid I used to touch my eye for fun, and I wore contacts. But it’s gross; I do not want your eye-germs directly in my eye. Like touching armpits directly together; all I can imagine is infection
I use the triangle rule. I let my eyes track between both eyes and the mouth, in roughly equal amounts. It shows continuous interest, without being overly intense.
Staring at 1 spot can (apparently) get unnerving if the other person notices it. Staring at their eyes only can come across as far too intense.
What is this characteristic of? Asking for a friend
Checks community
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stares directly into your eyes “I AM PISSING”
I find eye contact distracting. If I need to actually think about what I’m saying or what the other person is saying, I have to look away to concentrate. And this is 10x worse if I think the person is attractive.
I used to look at people’s mouths a lot without noticing and a friend of mine was surprised i could read lips so well and he couldn’t. that’s when i noticed and i guess, stopped doing it XD
I’m avoidant too! I hate looking into people’s eyes, it feels really intimate. It’s easier with people in my inner circle though.
I remember a long time ago at one of my early jobs worrying about this exact thing during the interview. I felt like i was staring at their mouth the whole time, or looking down. Weeks later my boss told me they liked my firm handshake and how i kept eye contact.
So either dont worry so much or hope you get mistaken for someone else.
I was ‘taught’ to make eye contact. I was taught by being slapped in the face by my dad when I avoided it. These days I try not to. There is something in my eye contact that unnerves people. Whatever bozo rays I’m sending out must reflect the way I was forced to do it.
