I weighed the diagnosis vs all the appointments and sort of figured why bother? What does it change? I’m still me, and have figured out how to navigate my life. While I know that won’t work for everyone I was near 30 when I decided that. Also almost 50 now so not much material or awareness about it when I was much younger or known why I didn’t quite fit in.
Perhaps I’m not on the spectrum, but I sure tick a lot of boxes. I’m actually relatively comfortable with me now. Do I wish I could be more usual? Yeah of course but gotta play the hand you’re dealt.
I had a doc tell me he’s not going to get me tested after I asked for it. He said that useful for children, but for adults it’s more nuanced. For some adults, it just creates a label that’s not really all that useful, and any therapist you see after getting that label has to fight against assumptions of what is and isn’t worth addressing.
I never got tested. But there’s a social conscensus that I’m autistic AF.
That sounds awful I’m sorry. Even were told you were that doesn’t mean a stigma for your situation, it’s all personal.
I’ve learned to navigate life best I could, have done well enough but not as well as I probably could have. Even if you have it I’ve never known what any diagnosis could solve. Its sort of a thing ya just gotta go work through in your life is all. Like a dummy weight off the boat you stear against. Don’t do much nautical stuff so hope that fits.
I hope you figure out your path.
Also never had anyone think I was autistic but never had many people around to mention otherwise, plus wasn’t a big thing when I grew up so now just figured this is me. But I realize I’m not what people would assume as normal once they scratch the surface is all.
I weighed the diagnosis vs all the appointments and sort of figured why bother? What does it change? I’m still me, and have figured out how to navigate my life. While I know that won’t work for everyone I was near 30 when I decided that. Also almost 50 now so not much material or awareness about it when I was much younger or known why I didn’t quite fit in.
Perhaps I’m not on the spectrum, but I sure tick a lot of boxes. I’m actually relatively comfortable with me now. Do I wish I could be more usual? Yeah of course but gotta play the hand you’re dealt.
I had a doc tell me he’s not going to get me tested after I asked for it. He said that useful for children, but for adults it’s more nuanced. For some adults, it just creates a label that’s not really all that useful, and any therapist you see after getting that label has to fight against assumptions of what is and isn’t worth addressing.
I never got tested. But there’s a social conscensus that I’m autistic AF.
That sounds awful I’m sorry. Even were told you were that doesn’t mean a stigma for your situation, it’s all personal.
I’ve learned to navigate life best I could, have done well enough but not as well as I probably could have. Even if you have it I’ve never known what any diagnosis could solve. Its sort of a thing ya just gotta go work through in your life is all. Like a dummy weight off the boat you stear against. Don’t do much nautical stuff so hope that fits.
I hope you figure out your path.
Also never had anyone think I was autistic but never had many people around to mention otherwise, plus wasn’t a big thing when I grew up so now just figured this is me. But I realize I’m not what people would assume as normal once they scratch the surface is all.
This sounds a lot like me going through my thirties now