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Honest question - How do you manage an AuDHD person? Im pretty sure im also undiagnosed adhd, but this kid at my work is the embodiment of this meme. Hes a superstar on some days, and a waste of time on others. like his antics and stories waste time as a whole for everyone, not just him. I though i could relate with him but that doesn’t seem to be the case.
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I imagine it like this (good idea coz also autist): Normal people have more or less steady levels of concentration, focus, etc. ADHD people have it a lot different:
- low activity mode
- medium activity mode
- super-high activity mode
but I also think, that in the end the total activity expense has to be equal of a normal people so it’s all about compromises: think less for 5 days, then brainstorm for 3-6 hours 1 day and achieve concentration and capability levels that normal people can only dream of.
the problem is knowing which mode is when, and if it’s possible to influence them? for example today I got my super high activity mode triggered by A LOT of sugar. Right now I’m doing tasks that required my mind to “JUMP” high, and for a long time far away. I’m doing it.
but also fuck had also something important to say - forgot.
I’m doing like 3-5 things “at once” - I mean in 1 query - pausing the doing the other thing, rinse and repeat.
alright, I backtraced my own thoughts ( going backwards thought by thought ), I remembered:
It actually does feel like 3 modes (again but different comparisson):
- normal car, sometimes
- super shit car what the fuck super slow, sometimes (but also, in this mode we can do things and act as we usually do - the muscle memory for example can automatically jump in, or other things such as doing things we used to - just repeating, but sadly a lot of the time that doesn’t work, and being in this mode while at a workplace, and ESPECIALLY if you’re new to the company or whatever… it’s a very bad timing)
- 600 hp muscle car, sometimes
compared to normal brains (neurotypical):
- normal car, sometimes
- a bit slower car, sometimes
- 200hp better car, sometimes
I would love to have a job where random time progress was an option.
But I’ve never worked a steady job where my metric was deliverables, it has always been coverage and service. And handle time ungh.
So stress. Much burnout.
How engage the other two modes on useful topics???
So far I cna only engage them on autistic hyperfocus games like Factorio or YouTube history rabbit holes. Everywhere else I am permanently stuck in mode #3
Do you get anxiety with work?
Factorio man, I discovered that game last month and I had to purge it from my computer because that’s all I could do. I once played for 18 hours straight. Fucking hell.
I have recently discovered bitburner and I regret it deeply Send help.
Nooo why’d you have to tell me this game exists
The more freetime is available, the less work will be done
Also : 3AM is best time to vacuum cleaning and fix water pipes.
In a 10:5:85 split
With ai I will let my work in progress grow until I get so overwhelmed I can’t get any of them done. But when I finally close out an issue or two I’m flying again.
Well the clanker is while I watch
Maybe so, but it’s a shell game the whole damn time, too. 🙄
That dumbass head keeps changing hats… and just loves to pop out whenever you think it’s either of the laser focus twins.
Ta-da! Me agaIn, ha! Try again, foolish mortal!
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Difference is, you write all that, and still get your ass to work.
Someone with ADHD faces the same world everyone else does, and a disorder is a disorder when at the end of reciting that comment you just did at the edge of the bed, instead of getting their pants on the ADHD person just sits there staring into space and sorting through a myriad of sub-thoughts created by the original one.
They might be late yet again for work, pissing their boss off and moving the counter. If they have it severe enough, they may just stay rooted there and never make it out there door, thus losing or never being able to have acquired a job in the first place.
No one is saying the world doesn’t suck, least of all the people who can diagnose and help. They’re saying the problems are real enough that this person is unable to shape themselves towards the norm of society. It is not a commentary on the state of society itself, even if the enshittifying of our reality makes it so that the fringe cases that were previously coping well enough, suddenly can’t.
the ADHD person just sits there staring into space and sorting through a myriad of sub-thoughts created by the original one.
Did something happen to all these people that must have existed through history and were somehow not documented as behaving the way you just described them?
This freaking site is as impossible to have a normal discussion on as Reddit is. What a joke.
