Yeah that’s fair. Although Reddit also has a lot more users, so the snarky people and the ones that can’t just scroll past something they don’t like stick out more.

So I think, in terms of conversations like this where the bottom line is there’s just not enough users to have all the same communities as Reddit, people could maybe be a bit friendlier to noobs or towards communities they don’t like.

Like, I remember when I first got here, I was still interested in discussing Reddit, so I was around the Reddit community for a bit. And I remember so many people around there just interacting in bad faith. Yes we know Reddit is shit, thanks, your take is isn’t hot, it’s years old.

It wasn’t completely off putting but pretty fucking annoying. In general it’s pretty fucking annoying.

But as you say, Reddit was the same, so it’s not like it’s a Lemmy specific issue. And probably can’t be helped without iron fisted levels of moderation that no one wants.

Also, with the way people are around here, a Facebook or Google centred community would just be smartasses shitting on Facebook and Google and anyone that tries to post about them.

I see this hasn’t changed much since I was last here on Lemmy. Even this comment chain, I’m replying to, instead of suggesting nicely to OP to start a community and get something going here, it’s snark and sarcasm. And I know that would put me off, if I was considering making a community before that.

One way I’ve seen this explained is that the bad sensory stuff is things that you can’t control. Whereas the humming or chatting or music or whatever is something that you’re in complete control of. It’s noise that you want and expect, not noise that’s disrupting you.