I would honestly prefer it if more websites just did that and gave you access to whatever they have about you in their database. Would be much easier to figure out which data they actually store about me. If you set up the access lsits appropriately it could be OK from the security perspective too (of course better to do it over something other than SQL, but who am I to judge).

I don’t think “safety friends” are typical in lesbian circles, because of the implication