bearboiblake [he/him]

🏳️‍🌈 hi there, i’m blake! i’m a silly gay bear 🌀

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Cake day: February 25th, 2025

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  • Hahah! I’m actually gay, so I’d just be thrilled to meet them and wonder why they’re choosing to get their freak on in my apartment, of all places.

    I do have sex because my husband isn’t asexual, but yeah, I basically don’t think about sex, when I see sexual content my usual first reaction is kinda like “ew”. It’s not super revolting or anything, doesn’t really bother me much, but it’s like… idk, imagine if everyone was really into like, sharing pictures of shits they took and people really enjoyed toilet humor and sharing bathroom stories. It’s a bit like that.


  • I’m really glad to hear that you’re doing better. At the end of the day, it’s classic psychiatrist behavior. They’ve always treated us as problems because we’re different, and blamed us for not fitting neatly into the mold society expects everyone to fit, rather than helping society to accept other people for being different.

    This is also why I hate modern psychiatric approaches to treating trauma such as CBT and EMDR, it focuses on making trauma victims fit into society better through some sort of systematic approach, tackling “symptoms”, rather than treating people as individuals and just talking them through issues in a holistic way.



  • The most charitable way I can read it is like, sometimes autistic people can struggle with communicating, especially if things are implied rather than expressed, and I can imagine that it can be a frustrating experience for neurotypical people when they’re misunderstood.

    But like… it just takes finding a communication style that works for both partners. Maybe a bit more clear and deliberately expressive, laying out exactly how they feel and what they expect/want of eachother to be happy.

    Being in a relationship with an autistic person and blaming them for behaving autistically is like getting into a relationship with a wheelchair user and getting mad that they can’t take the stairs. Find a workaround, or find another partner!


  • bearboiblake [he/him]@pawb.socialtoAutism@lemmy.worldCassandra Syndrome
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    Thank you for sharing, this was an enjoyable read!

    The experience of noticing patterns that others don’t, even after pointing it out to them, is extremely relatable to me. I didn’t realize it was a neurodiverse trait, I just thought it was something relatively unique to my experience, so it’s nice to discover I’m not alone there.

    It’s so unbelievably frustrating trying to warn people about dangers and being told that I’m making slippery slope arguments only to be proven right later again and again and again. It’s really exhausting, and never even slightly validating when I’m proven right.

    Reading that psychology article is… really something. This fucking passage:

    There are many cases of neurodivergent partners who are able to mask their challenges and appear to people around them as articulate, thoughtful, caring, sensitive, empathic, and so on

    Yuck, yuck, yuck. Implying autistic people have to mask to be articulate, thoughful, caring or empathic? We have to work harder to understand social cues and sometimes need a bit of extra guidance with things like sarcasm. In my experience autistic people are sensitive and empathic to a fault.

    It sounds like what they’re describing isn’t autism, but rather more like sociopathy or something…

    By the way, you have a little typo:

    seeing patters others don’t and getting punished for it


  • 60 Minutes has been such a fucking propaganda outlet since CBS got bought by Trump’s billionaire buddy, Larry Ellison, and EVEN STILL, it’s not enough for him.

    Literally the most soft-ball interview imaginable, the interviewer read a short excerpt from the alleged shooter’s manifesto about fighting pedophiles - it didn’t even directly accuse him!!! - and he freaked out, started saying “I’m not a pedophile” and whinging about how disgusting and disgraceful the interviewer is for bringing it up.

    It’s the most self-reporting behavior imaginable.










  • I’m not sure what you mean - if the international community embargoed and censured Israel in accordance with international law and withheld arms and support, the Israeli regime would collapse, very quickly - at which point the international community could step in and ensure that Palestine doesn’t become a failed state, and handle a peaceful transition and ensure a thorough and comprehensive denazification program with proper trials for those who committed crimes, and a period of truth and reconciliation. I also believe that nations who have supported Israel’s genocide of Gaza - such as the UK, Italy, Germany, the United States, et al. should also pay significant compensation to the Palestinian people.

    Those in power don’t want to give us any of this. They should be removed from power, by any means necessary.