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  • After having owned a few if these brands I decided I’d only own some Japanese, German or Korean cars. Never Italian or French. They are great the first 5 years or so, but age like milk. Owned an Opel and it was pretty good, but I guess it’s now off the list. Stellantis is the collection of the worlds least reliable cars.

    I drive a 26 year old Skoda (VAG group) which has had not a single major repair, except for timing belts, a clutch, and other consumables.



  • elucubra@sopuli.xyztoADHD memes@lemmy.dbzer0.comAnyone else this way?
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    16 days ago

    I’m actually writing a book on this. Take RSD, the new darling of ADHD “influencers”, for example: the concept that fear of rejection is an ADHD trait, and that non ADHD people ignore rejection is so preposterous it makes me mad.

    Think of the whole sociodynamics of teen and young adulthood, for example, or the billion dollar industries based on catering to people’s fear of rejection. Most people crave acceptance, praise, being valued, etc. We are social animals.

    Lots more in the book.

    I’m wring the book in spurts of hyper focus, with days or weeks between these, of course. We do have major, objective challenges.






  • I don’t really believe it’s a spectrum. I believe that you either have a dopamine processing deficiency, or you don’t. I think the differences we see are the result of how well some of us learn to cope, or devise self protecting strategies.

    I mean, there may be slight differences, but I wouldn’t call it a spectrum, at least in the way that autism is, where you have mildly socially incompetent people to nearly non functional people.

    I was undiagnosed bipolar for over 40 years, masked by my success in employment and entrepreneurship, which lasted about 2-5 years every stage, when tedium became unbearable, and had to look for other challenges to fuel my dopamine. No one, even myself, connected the dots between my intense drive, and the following depressive stage, and the next jump. I finally crashed hard, and sought a psychiatryst. Once properly medicated, my mood swings normalized, the ADHD symptoms were unmasked.

    Now we are working on dialing in meds for ADHD. Pretty hard to balance.

    In my case I belive I don’t more or less ADHD than others, but that I was good at (extreme) damage control.

    My opinion.


  • I was explaining to my sister about how my diagnosis, as an older adult, was going, and how it explained many things in my life. She immediately told me she suspects she has it, because she has a short attention span.

    She is an elementary school principal, who leads a perfectly organized life, set on a path in her 20’s and has followed it to the letter, she has an insanely well set up financial structure, budgets to the cent, is learning a third language in her spare time, leads a regimented daily schedule, even on weekends and vacations.

    Yeah.