Do you all have a different idea of what a date is than me or something? The point is to get to know someone you don’t know yet.

it’s 2025 and the typical use case when you meet someone on an app is to chat online, maybe do some video calls for a week+ to establish rapport and vet one another. by the time you meet up you should have some amount of chemistry and a feel for each other’s values.

if you don’t, the hinged thing to do is to not go out until you do. not to bring a third wheel lol.

but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to roll those dice.

apt metaphor considering it’s a stupid fucking game to play. surely you can’t blame anyone for choosing not to play it.

Why should they trust some random dude they met on a dating app?

no one says they have to, but they probably shouldn’t, i dunno, go out on a date with them if they can’t.

You act like that’s some crazy fear, but it happens all the fucking time.

call it a crazy thought, but if i were premeditating sexual assault, i probably wouldn’t choose someone who has my name, photos, phone number, and a history of correspondence to show motive. lol

right, this is basically saying “i don’t trust you not to spike my drink, take me to a second location, and rape me”

and maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all if that’s where you start out from

because you’re a sloppy lover?