Both. The answer is slippers

When I have that moment of realizing how long it’s been and the guilt rushes in, I try to take a step back from the feeling and ask myself: how important is this relationship to me? Is it worth being uncomfortable for a little bit? And if the answer is yes, I text them immediately before I forget again. Because it’s always better to reach out late than never. And most of my friends understand by now anyways, because I have talked about my difficulties regarding this with them before.

But for trying to stay on top of it I’m not really sure myself. I thought about maybe incorporating some reach-out-to-friends time into my routine, like an hour every other monday where I spend some time calling/texting a friend, but I can decide who to reach out to and what method of communication to use in the moment, so I feel less pressured. Haven’t tried it yet, though. Sometimes I like to write a letter or postcard to someone I haven’t seen in a while. It might be a little weird and oldschool, but it’s easier for me to take my time and have some room to talk about what happened during the last few months. Also it is a nice surprise for your friend to find in theur mailbox!

Recognizing my limits is a big part of this, I realize… not very easy though, unfortunately. But planning rest periods is very important, you’re right! I’ll try to take notes on when I feel most energized so I can figure out when to plan in things.

Thank you for the tip, that could probably help with time blindness as well. I think I will get an alarm clock for that, so I can’t get distracted by my phone as easily!

Thank you, this is actually really helpful! I just downloaded tasks.org and will try out your ABC system. Also having tasks increase in importance the longer I wait to do them seems like a good idea

I’m not diagnosed, but I stim a lot. When I’m happy I shake my wrists or flail my arms a little and sometimes I bounce up and down. When I’m stressed I rub my hands together in a regular motion and/or scratch myself (arms and neck) and swing from side to side. I also rock a lot, both when happy and stressed. When I eat something I like I kind of wobble the spoon or fork in my hand and as a child I used to hum while eating, but I’ve since stopped doing that. Something I always do no matter my mood is tapping my fingers to the music that’s currently stuck in my head (I always have a song playing in my head or sometimes sentences or funny sounding words, idk why). I used to try and suppress those stims, but I’m much happier now that I mostly embrace them (at least when I’m alone or with people I trust).