• Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
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        I’m imagining the mom figuring it out right away, while the dad is either in denial, or a moron.

        Like she’s standing there with 44DDs, in a ball gown and tiarra. And her dad is like “Sooooo, how bout them bears?”

        And she’s like “…what?”

        And he’s like “Season just started. How do you like our boys odds this year?”

        And she’s like “I don’t like the boys chances this year.”

        And it’s two unrelated conversations overlapping.

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        My nephew has been on T for a while now. He told his mom the deep voice was from COVID 🤣 he’s planning on waiting till after top surgery to tell her so she doesn’t kick him off her insurance. I think she’ll be supportive, but there’s trust issues between them.

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          If there’s even an inkling of doubt, it feels totally reasonable to hide treatment. I hope that they will understand, when your nephew finally comes out, just how important this is.

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    I’m closeted. Also not attempted any transitioning. I take the “female” role on discord, and that’s the best I can do.

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      You’re exactly as trans as I am. It’s how you feel inside about yourself, and that feeling exists whether the rest of the world acknowledges it or not. Fuck closets, the scariest person to come out to is yourself.

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        I don’t worry myself about wasting life. At least not in the way people often mean it.

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            “meant to be”

            That’s the thing. Everything is always in the future. Everything’s always tomorrow. Everything is always over the horizon, and then everything will be as it should be. Life’s treated like an inconvenient, high maintenance gift we didn’t ask for. “Don’t fuck it up. Dont fuck it up. Always become. Never just be”

            Look if I have an opportunity to transition I will. There’d be no reason not to. But I’d still be me. And that’s really all I want. I want to be me right now and then die when it’s time.

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              I’m just saying you are denying yourself a great deal of happiness. It’s not about reaching some idealized final state. It’s about living a life of joy instead of the alternative.

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    I regretted coming ouy to my family, when i told my mom she said she was going to tell my dad so i had to tell everyone before i was ready

    leave me alone, like you had for a decade by that point, please

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    Kids being kids don’t realize how much parents see, just because parents have experience, and know more about the world and the possibilities.

    Parents often suspect before the kid is even thinking about it. Some parents shove their heads in the sand, and vehemently reject the idea, we all know who, and pity the kid with those parents. Others are cool about it. Or, cool enough, it can be hard to accept when the realization first comes.

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    This is wholesome and cute. Wishing all the support for everyone in these situations.