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  • I just really have to say that in my experience and for what friends have told, that is simply not a realistic concern in my mind

    As for it being “more common” than abuse, I just have your word for it. And I simply don’t believe it. Because female friends talking about sexual abuse is something both more taboo and more frequently happened to me, than male friends telling me they had to jump a date because the girl was a gold digger.

    Hence our difference of views on this

    Ofc my suggestion is not to date people until you know them a bit, if that’s so common in your life.


  • Yeah… you see, exactly because people who think like you exist, women have to look for clues right away that they are not going to date a misogynist…

    Women need protection when meeting with strangers, basically all women have life experience that make them feel they need it. I’m sure you as a guy are able to take no for an answer, but your date doesn’t know that yet, and it takes just one guy who doesn’t to ruin a woman’s dating experience and possibly her health and safety.

    I do know women who don’t feel that need, but that’s mostly because they are ignoring their own and their friends’ past experiences. It’s their choice ofc, but it’s universally accepted among women that it’s not a strange thing to do, in fact is the safest thing to do.

    If some women then abuse that need to try to freeride, it’s another discussion, and as a guy I would simply drop the date if I were in that situation. But the need exists, it is valid, and not validating this need to your date will raise a red flag.



  • Mh is he not showing he’s annoyed by her friend tagging along? And why bringing money up?

    I mean, if it were happening to me, where I live, I wouldn’t even think she was going to expect me to pay not even for herself, and if she ends up expecting or pressuring me, I just know she’s not the one. What’s there to be scared of? Worst case scenario I just leave my part on the table and go away

    I know of memes about women going to first fates just to have nights out without paying, but it’s very far from what I see happening where I live, and I suspect it’s just manophase echo chamberism. Because, again, one can just put their part on the table and leave, and perhaps date within one’s social circle so to avoid this kind of social distortion


  • Dude showed he’s annoyed seeing girl seeks protection, by calling the friend RoboCop, and implied she might have wanted him to pay for both, putting carriage before horses.

    What you say literally can often show what you think inside, and in a first date scenario every sign will be interpreted

    For example, not showing much respect for the female need for protection on a first date can mean dude doesn’t think women have reason to feel unsafe