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  • Yeah it’s a tricky situation better modeled by game theory. No one wants to love and be hated in return. Also most will wait until there is proof of love before giving love. Many will assume group x dislikes me and will reflexively dislike any member of said group back. Unconditional love, hope, and forgiveness sounds very silly and even cliche but it is a very radical mindset and one I wish to embody.

    Imagine trying to tell people to love one another and then you get tortured and while being tortured you beg for your torturers forgiveness. A modern example that comes to mind is Nelson Mandela who was treated very badly by his prison guards and on release they were certain he would return the violence but instead he forgave them. It’s a rare thing to see amongst humans because it is a very difficult thing for us to do. Everything in us is telling us it’s insane to forgive and love. You see the same argument in Buddhism and other faiths. I often come back to one of my favorite people Thich Nhat Hanh. In my practice of compassion.


  • You might enjoy graph theory, bidirectional relationships are often modelled in a graph, typically as nodes connected by an edge without a defined direction. Maps and roads with locations are often used as a good example of something easy to model as a graph. So for example you can have two locations A and B connected by a two way road that would be like two nodes connected by a bidirectional edge. A one way street would be like a directed edge or a one way relationship.

    Friendships and social networks are another example. Typically if someone is your friend then you are also there’s or if someone is your relative then you are also there relative.

    The argument that everyone should love one another is an argument for a bidirectional relationship. So people setting down their differences and loving one another is a bidirectional relationship, from group x towards group y and group y towards group x, similar to the above examples.

    Pointing that out I still don’t think is a whataboutism. It’s just the nature of the claim. If it was, everyone love group X even if they don’t love you then that would be a directed relationship.


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    It’s a bidirectional system. Imagine I am trying to shake your hand yet simultaneously I do not want you to shake my hand. It doesn’t work. So for everyone to put down their differences and love one another then everyone has to put down their differences and love one another.

    It’s not so much an argument of what about this or that but a recognition that it is a bidirectional relationship. If I shake your hand then you also shook my hand.


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    It would be a what aboutism if I was using that to defend the poor treatment of them by others. The original claim is for people to love one another. That’s group x towards group y and group y towards group x aka the logic works both ways as I originally stated. For instance if I shook someone’s hand that infers they shook my hand as in the relationship is bidirectional. People setting down their differences and loving one another is a bidirectional system. It doesn’t work if one group wants only the other to put down their differences and love them. It would be like me trying to shake your hand but I do not want you to shake my hand.


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    Change the orange person’s text to literally any group that receives hatred or dislike to a degree it prevents one loving another. I can say I’ve been at the end of someone automatically treating me very unpleasantly because I wasn’t any of the things the orange person said, I believe the assumption was I was bad because I wasn’t in their group or automatically I disliked them or was the enemy. For what it’s worth my singular core belief is the reduction of needless and avoidable suffering for all minds anywhere in existence. Also to counterpoint, most people are pretty pleasant across the world under most conditions.