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It’s okay, no people had aspersions cast against them in this post.

Tell me, what kind of racism do white male board members experience?

I don’t think there was a Kid Rock/Pamela Anderson sex tape.

And the Tommy Lee sex tape was stolen and leaked without either Pamela or Tommy’s permission. When Pamela tried to sue the distributor the judge basically said “Well you posed topless for Playboy before, so this sex tape is hardly going to further damage your career”. Massively misogynistic and it really messed her life up.

Me neither, that’s why I was very willing to believe it was actually Tuesday 😂

Wait it’s Tuesday?!

I can flip that around for you: “Ah yes, the classic: the user must be in the wrong, not the organisation with a history of secretly installing an extension nobody asked for”.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. This is rough and I hope you and your wife both find a way through this.

Some thoughts from an internet stranger:

1. Your ADHD is not your fault. You mentioned not doing anything about it for around a year: please remember that ADHD affects your executive function. Maybe you feel like you could have done something earlier, but that’s part of the cruelty of executive dysfunction: we rationalise the inactivity (“I was lazy”, “I couldn’t be bothered”, etc.) because that’s easier to understand than accepting that for whatever reason your brain just couldn’t go there. You’re doing something now and that’s what matters.

2. Just because your relationship feels like it’s not good now, that doesn’t mean it can’t improve. It sounds like both of you are carrying a lot, and maybe for now the right thing is having space from each other. That’s sad, and feeling those feelings is valid and important. But that doesn’t mean the story is over for the both of you. Some other people here have mentioned couples therapy, and if that’s something you’re both interested in I’d also like to join in with recommending that.

I’m sorry you experienced this. My assessment had the same outcome.

I find it helpful to remember that diagnostic assessments are set somewhat arbitrarily and are more concerned with the question “do these symptoms negatively affect your life to the extent they need intervention?”. That question is purely subjective and isn’t reflective of you.