Guy is gonna look back on this moment for the rest of his life and kick himself

  • RedFrank24@lemmy.world
    1·
    4 hours ago

    What would I even SAY to goth baddies?

    “Hey do you like tabletop? I do, I like playing Barbarians because it makes me feel strong”

  • Noxy@pawb.socialEnglish
    11·
    15 hours ago

    reminds me when I was in fifth or six grade and two girls a grade or two older than me would constantly find me in the hallways between classes, corner me, and either start hitting on me, or say flirty shit about me to each other just loud enough for me to hear but quiet enough that it left me wondering if they were doing it intentionally.

    I didn’t like it and I wanted it to stop, but I remember feeling really conflicted about wanting to do anything about it because it was also kinda validating at the same time, and I was definitely a weird kid that needed validation at the time. Honestly can’t remember too much more about it, genuinely not sure if I spoke up or not at this point.

    But to this day if I hear some people speaking to each other in hushed tones and giggling and shit, it can still bring me back to that feeling of not being sure if some other people are talking about and laughing at me.

  • theparadox@lemmy.worldEnglish
    121·
    20 hours ago

    This was kind of me in early high school. There was this badass goth chick who, looking back, was very likely “flirting” with me quite a bit. Admittedly, I had my own absurd style that definitely had shades of goth too.

    I recall she bit my arm so hard she drew blood… on more than one occasion. I absolutely had a thing for her so I didn’t mind. She was a grade or two older and had a boyfriend who was either from another town, dropped out, or already graduated. I’d never met or seen him though. Me and her did hang out a few times in random secluded places after school or during down time but nothing romantic ever happened - just talking.

    Looking back on it as a more mature adult, and vaguely recalling her stories, I am pretty sure she had a fucked up childhood and home life. I wouldn’t be surprised if the boyfriend situation was more fucked up than I realized.

    Shortly after graduating high school, I met some people who actually knew the guy (he had allegedly been their dealer a few years prior lol) and apparently I looked a lot like him, only I was a few inches taller and less skinny. The number of times I was mistaken for him was crazy. I guess she had a type? I hope she’s doing ok.

  • finitebanjo@lemmy.world
    82·
    21 hours ago

    NGL I’ve had to fight off some thirsty ladies before, it’s disgusting when they just can’t take a hint.

  • Telodzrum@lemmy.world
    27521·
    2 days ago

    Being sexually harassed by two people who refuse to respect boundaries while peers, friends, and school administrators look on and laugh was the “comically terrible” situation in 2006. Given the content of this meme, nothing has changed; which, in itself, is a sad statement about our society.

    • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
      53·
      21 hours ago

      Being sexually harassed by two people who refuse to respect boundaries while peers, friends, and school administrators look on and laugh was the “comically terrible” situation in 2006.

      The awkwardness of high school sexuality played up for comic effect was generally a setup to a morality tail in the closing arc, where the producers punish the sluts/horn-dogs and reward the chaste conservative trads.

      Given the content of this meme, nothing has changed

      TV in the '00s was Britney Spears waggling her butt and saying “Why do boys keep chasing me?! I just want to have a nice Christian marriage, but I’m being assaulted by these savage infidels who think thigh-high school girl outfits are sexy!!! Oh, whoa is me!”

      TV in the '20s is Zendaya luring two tennis playing men into kissing one another while she jills it in a corner.

    • taiyang@lemmy.world
      86·
      2 days ago

      Reminds me of the double standard with teacher sexual abuse. Male teacher abuses student, pedophile. Female teacher abuses student, “wish I was him” (unless she was deemed ugly, and even then).

      Things don’t change much, although it doesn’t help when people forget men can be victimized, too.

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
        7·
        20 hours ago

        Reminds me of the double standard with teacher sexual abuse. Male teacher abuses student, pedophile. Female teacher abuses student, “wish I was him”

        That was a transition from the 70s/80s to the 90s/00s. Sexy teenage girl desperate to hook up with the handsome clueless professor was a chronic trope of GenX media. Then social mores changed and the male teacher became an insidious predator, rather than a clueless schmuck. But we still wanted to tell the old story, so it was time for the sexy teenage boy to be Hot For Teacher instead.

        The morality play in both instances teaches us that chastity is a form of maturity and responsibility, while horniness is comic relief. But neither really lay out the idea of consent or the bureaucratic power of a teacher over a student. Everything is played up for drama or for laughs. A parent’s concern is merely a trope to be inserted to advance the story. Scandal is about raising tension, not defining proper behavior. The taboo exists to be broken in order to titillate the audience.

      • helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world
        43·
        2 days ago

        And the equally terrible victims blaming for teens; “girl must have been asking for it, what a slut” vs “bOyS cAnT bE rApEd because they enjoy it, good for him”

      • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        12·
        12 hours ago

        assault

        We’re calling intimidation/harassment assault now? That’s histrionic.

          • lmmarsano@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
            2·
            4 hours ago
            dictionary entry

            assault

            noun
            a violent attack

            legal definition

            In common law

            An attempt with force or violence to do a corporal injury to another; may consist of any act tending to such corporal injury, accompanied with such circumstances as denotes at the time an intention, coupled with present ability, of using actual violence against the person.

            or “reasonable apprehension of the immediate application of force to the victim”.

            No.

      • AItoothbrush@lemmy.zipEnglish
        24·
        2 days ago

        Iceland probably has the best track record. Their culture, size, location, etc just add up to make a country where workers rights, freedom of speech and equality is very good.

        • greygore@lemmy.world
          191·
          2 days ago

          Plus with almost everyone being related, men don’t have to play that “imagine it was your sister or daughter” game to generate empathy for women. /s

          • AItoothbrush@lemmy.zipEnglish
            6·
            1 day ago

            Yeah thats why i also listed size. It really is a unique country that maybe more places should take notes from… but its hard to implement something similar because their history and location also causes this situation.

          • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
            13·
            2 days ago

            I mean, they do have that app specifically to check for relation. I can imagine there are some fun games that can be played while you’re out at a party. “Hey, dude, check out that dude over there. Bet you I can get his number.”

            “You’re on, and I’ll bet he’s within four degrees of cosanguinity.”

    • s@piefed.worldEnglish
      64·
      2 days ago

      Bieber hair is so default man that it was the second hair piece Lego ever made, back in 1979. Back then, it was called Beatles hair.

    • ThunderWhiskers@lemmy.world
      271·
      2 days ago

      Bieber’s first album didn’t release until 2010. This look was just fairly ubiquitous among teens and 20s hearthrobs in the 2000s. Note the boot cut jeans that you would never catch Bieber wearing.

      • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.caEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        cna confirm. I had the hairstyle a couple years before we ever heard of Bieber, after that happened the comments were so constant I grew it even longer lol

        also had the boot cuts

  • markovs_gun@lemmy.world
    53·
    2 days ago

    As someone who lived through 2006, I can assure you I would have enjoyed being in this situation then just as much as I would now, possibly more.

  • ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com
    493·
    2 days ago

    As a teenager I would’ve been so shy and irritated by that sort of scenario. As a grown man now with much more confidence and life experience, I’d straight up ask them if they wanted to bang.

    • Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
      16·
      2 days ago

      What if they were just doing it to make fun?

      I remember being in gym class, secondary school a few decades ago and these two sexually prolific girls for lack of a better term, moderately popular, who would spend gym classes flirting and basically sexually molesting? (Idk what term to use when clothes are on) this nerdy kid most days in gym. Teacher only seemed to laugh when he noticed.

      They would feel him up and tell him his balls were small or penis was crooked. It was fucked up.

      • ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com
        11·
        2 days ago

        Yeah, it definitely happens for malicious reasons sometimes, in which case it would be a very bad case of bullying. In fact, it’s a particularly cruel form of psychological bullying. It’s painful for a young man to be made to feel worthless and inadequate by girls.

        • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works
          5·
          1 day ago

          As someone who went through much less bad bullying, it’s fucked up. What do you even do? Punch back? That works for same-sex bullies, but if you hit a girl hard enough to be afraid of you/have some respect for you, you’re the bad guy for hitting a girl. Ignore it? Contrary to popular belief, that makes bullies bolder, because they get to have fun without consequences. The only thing that kind of worked was avoiding bullies, and if you can’t, wait until there are no witnesses around, and then make sure to get the first good punch in, so that they’d think twice next time. Kids fucking suck. Man, am I happy to not be in school any more.

          • socsa@piefed.socialEnglish
            3·
            21 hours ago

            The correct answer is to get good at math, go to college and study engineering, land a six figure job, and then circle back around and fuck her dad.

            • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works
              2·
              20 hours ago

              Been there, done that, decided that I won’t slave away my remaining time on this earth in search of the mythical six figure engineering job :)

    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@reddthat.com
      271·
      2 days ago

      As a middle schooler, I thought the idea of nonconsensual harassment was pretty hot. I still feel that way, but I thought it back then too.

      Still don’t think such should be tolerated just because I liked it. Also, when there’s a credible threat vs minimal in-school harassment, its a lot scarier (although its still hot).

  • alekwithak@lemmy.world
    23·
    2 days ago

    It’s like that movie She’s Out of My League where we’re supposed to buy Krysten Ritter as the ugly friend.